Ivan Cameron’s funeral
Lies in his bed, walks up and down with me,
Puts on his pretty looks, repeats his words,
Remembers me of all his gracious parts,
Stuffs out his vacant garments with his form.
Shakespeare lost a young son - his only son - Hamnet, at the age of 11. Scholars have long thought that these heart-rending words spoken by Constance in King John were quilled with tears streaming down a grieving father’s face.
God lost a son too.
And the agony must have been unbearable.
Cranmer shall be remembering the Cameron family today as they commit the body of their ‘beautiful boy’ to the ground, and his spirit to God. Ivan no longer has need of his earthly body: he is, as Mr Cameron says, ‘in a better place’. Cranmer prays that their faith shall be a source of great strength as they now face a very different life; one that has been much enriched through being blessed by such a special child.
Here is the message they have sent to their friends, colleagues and those who have expressed their condolences:
Sam and I have been overwhelmed by all the letters, cards, emails and flowers we have received about Ivan. Sending an e-mail this week just gives us both a chance to say a big "thank you". It means a lot to know that others are thinking of us and him.
We always knew Ivan wouldn't live forever, but we didn't expect to lose him so young and so suddenly. He leaves a hole in our life so big that words can't describe it. Bed time, bath time, meal time - nothing will feel the same again.
We console ourselves knowing that he won't suffer anymore, that his end was quick, and that he is in a better place. But we all just miss him so desperately.
When we were first told the extent of Ivan's disability I thought that we would suffer having to care for him but at least he would benefit from our care. Now as I look back I see that it was all the other way round. It was only him that ever really suffered and it was us - Sam, me, Nancy and Elwen - who gained more than I ever believed possible from having and loving such a wonderfully special and beautiful boy.